my boyfriend and i have have decided to get married. we are planning a small (50-100) guests wedding for close family and friends. he and i both come from large families. however i come from a family that is much more well off than his. therefore my family has agreed to pay for the majority of the wedding. my mom says he and i will have to pay for certain extras we want but i know she will do it if i ask, she always does. my boyfriend is a little upset that my parents do so much for me and doesnt really want them paying for our wedding. they are also paying for us to take our daughter to disneyland this summer for her birthday (they will come as well as other family). he feels we need to be more independent. i say we’re blessed. my mom’s parents treated her the same way most of her life. they paid for her wedding, her house, the cars, credit cards, etc. i am grateful to have parents who do as much as they do for me. should i break free of my parents like he wants?
we are in love and we are going to be married regardless but i dont want him to feel like we are not being adults. if we pay for our wedding its not going to be what i want. plus i found out some of my family and friends feel the same way as he does. im upset.
he has often said that he feels like he cant be half the man my dad is and my grandfather was. he gets upset that he cant spoil me and our daughter the way we are accustom to. dont get me wrong, its not all about money. im a simple girl but i definitely dont like to do a lot of hard work.